THE RIGHT RELATIONSHIP DOESN’T REQUIRE SACRIFICE
The right relationship creates synergy, not sacrifice
It adds dynamics to life, it doesn’t demand concessions
It requires that you collaborate, not change who you are.
The reason so few have experienced this is that they look for someone who completes them rather than becoming someone who is so fulfilled they are capable of being a compliment to another.
Most settle for the best they think they can get rather than waiting for the one who is ideal for them. A 50/50 relationship means that the moment either one is distracted, stressed or self-focused the relationship is below 100.
While no one is ever 100%, imagine the result of people in the high 80’s and 90’s paired together - even when one is having a low day the other is likely to have enough to spare without it feeling like work or sacrifice at all. It becomes their pleasure, rather than their responsibility to support their love. These are the kinds of relationships that create a space where both grow even more.
Co-dependence doesn’t transmute into synergy over time, it drains both individuals until the differences become irreconcilable. Those who seek healing, security or growth from the dynamic of a romantic relationship will only drain the person they’re with.
A co-dependent relationship has the potential to provide physical or financial security, but relational and spiritual strength comes from the partnership of two individuals who are secure and fulfilled even when they’re on their own.
Graham R White
Love is an extremely powerful thing, once you’re taught it – you can feel the authenticity behind it. And, it allows you to prevail on everything you want to do in life.Gurbaksh Chahal (via psych-facts)
A good woman will love the childlike part of you, but she wants your life to be guided by your deepest truths, not your untended childhood wounds.
She wants to feel that at your core you have grown beyond the need for kudos and million-dollar toys. She wants to feel your self-generated strength of truth. ~David Deida
If the one you love doesn’t love you back, it doesn’t mean no one’s gonna love you forever. Don’t you ever think that you’re not good for anyone, that no one in this world will treat special and love you just the way you wanted to. Maybe, its just God’s way of saying “I have someone better for you.” Someone will love you and want you just like how much you want them in your life. So, keep your head up and let your heart find its other half.
I’m never gonna wait that extra twenty minutes to text you back, and I’m never gonna play hard to get when I know your life has been hard enough already. When we all know everyone’s life has been hard enough already, it’s hard to watch the game we make of love, like everyone’s playing checkers with their scars, saying checkmate whenever they get out without a broken heart.Andrea Gibson (via fawun)
I don’t think women want somewhere in the middle of Bad Boys & Nice Guys, I think all women desire a man with the best qualities of both and none of the undesirable ones.
I think this is what a magnificent man is:
Confident but never cocky, self assured but never boastful, sensitive but still powerful, purposeful but inclusive, leads but never dictates, courageous but still vulnerable and an attentive yet ravishing lover.
This kind of man generates trust and intimacy by nature, focuses all his energy onto his purpose and all of his affection into his woman.
Being magnificently on purpose generates value and community which presents her with safety and security. His open communication and ongoing attention lay the foundation to her desire for his ravishing affection.
"Proud, rich and powerful" doesn’t create a space of emotional trust and "Sensitive, kind and caring" doesn’t generate financial security or guarantee a man of inspiring character.
Most women, like most men are prepared to settle rather than be lonely or sexually deprived. Evolved women don’t want the rich, powerful or popular egomaniac nor will they settle for the sensitive yet unremarkable good guy.
Exceptional women are prepared to wait for a man of magnificence.
Graham R White